August 29th, 2001


USA - Epilouge

Yeah.. I know. It's been some time since I came home etc... The problems being that everything kinda got out of order after I came home from USA. The week after, I were incredibly tired (Jet Lag or something), and sure not in the mood to do anything. All I did, was make a total mess of my apartment. Started working again. Still was incredibly tired. Did start a major clean up of my computer. Sorting and trashing stuff, back up on CD and reformat. Then hell trying to get everything back in about the order I wanted. As for common files, it wasn't much of a problem. It's worse with applications. Especially that I, for some reason, didn't get Outlook Express to find my old database, rules etc. I still haven't figured that one out, and have to still set it up with all the folders, rules etc, I want. Since I stupidly thought, as it always had done before, that I were gonna be able to use the old identy-folder, I didn't had the Adress-book saved in plain text. Big mistake, since I lost that too, and have to find all my friends e-mail adresses again.
Of course, with all the other applications, I needed install them, then find the updates, and update all programs.
Well.. Wasn't in the best of moods after that. For various reasons. Starting to work for real, knowing all the things I wanted, and should do, instead, sure didn't help. I felt really out of order. And then I got sick, just when I'd started becoming my usual happy me.

Well. USA. The most common question I've got afterwards, has been if I had fun, if I enjoyed my trip etc. Yes and no. Being there, weren't exactly "fun". No, it wasn't bad and boring. It was mostly being busy being there etc. I kinda enjoy it more now, when I'm back home, thinking. Yeah, wow, I've been to Graceland, I've walked over The Bridge in Madison County, etc etc. Now, of course, it's tons of things I wish I'd been able to do etc, and things I should've done. Some things I shouldn't have done. In general, I'm happy I did the trip.
Some thoughts about stuff.
Now Sweden is said to be the most americanized country in the world, so of course a lot of things are the same. Now I don't mean that we've got McDonalds and stuff, it's more about the general idea of things. How things work, etc.

USA is a touched self-obsessed, with a thought that: USA is best, why care about anything outside of USA. That means, USA in many ways, is able to step outside of itself, and look at how USA is, from another point of view.

In Europe, towns are built in a compact way. Basically you've got something in the middle, Fort, Market Square etc, and the town has been built around it, with all the offices and shops etc, around it, often with apartments on 2 - 6 floors above the shops. Around that city center, you've got large houses with apartments, then you got areas with small private houses. In USA, towns are laid out on a very big area, and with no real center, which means you need a car to drive around town, since it can be 4 miles between Circuit City and the OfficeMax you want to visit. In Sweden, it would be more likely that it were maybe 1/4 of a mile between them. Now I don't say it's good or bad each way. It's just different. The problem with USA, in my view, is that it's harder finding places. You kinda need to know where things are, to find them.
It's really easy to find the ways, tho, as long as you've got a map. As long as you know you're supposed to take "40" west, it's easy. In Europe, the directional signs tells where you come, if you take that road. As in: You go down a road, then a sign pointing right or left says: "Salina 15 (Km) >". The good with that, is that you know you're gonna end up in Salina if you turn there, that it's the "Salina Road". The bad thing is that it might be abstract. What the sign might fail to state that along that road, you also have "Upland", which is the place you're going to. You have to find out before, that, to get to "Upland" you need to take the road to "Salina". It's kinda easier to know that "Upland" is along "40", than that you're supposed to turn where the sign says "Salina".
In Sweden, there's no right turn on red, the trafic lights goes from red to yellow to green, we don't have yellow lines (As in, the roads are slightly more strict with where you can turn etc), the trafic lights are most of the time placed on the nearest side (not on the other side of the crossing road).
The WC's are deeper in Sweden (and in Germany and UK), with water at the bottom. In USA they were filled up so high, and close to where you sat.
In USA you had way more signs along the road, with Curve, Bridge etc, even when that curve you came to, ended up with you hardly turning the wheel.
I almost always forgot to lift the nozzle holder when I were feeding my car with more fuel. Something we got rid of in Sweden ages ago. In Sweden you just choose either nozzle, or use the nozzle and push the button for what Octane you want. In Sweden, our Octane starts at 93, by the way. In Sweden, it's common with an automat for inserting money, bills or card, next to the pumps. You feed the money, press a button, then go to the pump and start filling up the car (until the amount you've paid, runs out).
Hmm.. what else.. Can't think about anything else, at the moment.
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Feminism - Road to nowhere Part 1

Lately, I've stated in several places, that one of my pet subjects is how women are treated. Especially when it comes to how they're harrassed, raped and beaten up by their husbands. Ie, how their rights are violated, only because they're women. Now I'm not only limited to that. It's a general idea of all people being equal, and a general hatred against "violence" against other people only because they are something, being it Male, Female, White, Black, Asian, Christian, Muslim or whatever. Among that, it's, abuse against women, I feel the strongest against.

Also, to me it's natural that women (as with everybody else), should have the same status as men, with the same rights, equal salaries etc etc.

It's the basic same ideas that's called feminism, which, by the way, is about the last things I would call myself for several reasons.
- I generally hate labels, since it's exaclty the thing I'm about. So.. You have the label of being male, female, black, white etc. I don't think you can label anyone. I'm Caucasian Male, 37 yrs old, live in Sweden, have a cat, I have a plain work, I love movies, I do spend a lot of time with creative things. So, what label should you put on me, that covers all that. If I get the label White, does that mean I'm exactly the same as every other white person in the world?
- It's kinda sad that there have to be something called and defined as feminist, since in my view, it's totally natural thinking.
- I'm male, with tons of male thoughts, not all in the interest of females.
- Who am I, to put labels on myself. I am who I am. What labels others decide to put on me, that's their problem.
- Most important. I don't like feminists that much, since I hate fanatics of all kinds.

Both Men and Women are humans, and as such, very much alike. The word sex comes from: "The sum (6) total of the physiological, anatomical and functional characteristics which distinguish male and female; the quality of being male and female". As persons, both Males and females has the same needs. We all have to eat, go potty, comfort, strive for happiness etc. The one and only major difference there is, is due to the fact that women are able to give birth. It do affect the motives of actions of men and women. Women need to be more caring, in general, in order to feel for the childrens. Women need to be able to pick out "the right male", that best gives a good child, while men need to be attracted to women in a more direct way due to the fact that the women need something to pick from. (Women fight to be the most attractive, and being the one most interesting to men, and that way attract the best men). Men also needs to be protective. A woman with a child, are weaker, and not able to take care of herself as good as someone not having a child, and that way, men should have the quality of defedning them, as well as being able to bring them the things they need. That, is the foundation of it, and to a high degree important some ten thousand years ago. The basic foundation haven't changed, but the society has. Today, men doesn't need to protect women in the same way etc. Despite that, the differences are blown up more and more. Books like "Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars", sure doesn't help, since the whole idea of that is to label women and men, telling them how they are, or should be.
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USA - Epilogue 2

Now I remember. States!

What surprised me most, is that the different states differs such a lot. Well.. some, at least.

That has surprised people I've chatted with. I guess, coming from a different place, and also being on the look-out all the time, for new things, helps noticing that.

Of course, different states have their own way of handling things. In New Mexico, the road signs are blue with yellow text, which I didn't see on many places. Of course, various states has different rules and laws. In some you can only drive 65, in others 75. Some charge you $1,000 for littering the highway, others $5,000.

But, it's not really that I'm thinking about. It's the landscape and general culture, as well as a "feeling".

Even if I were in a part of USA that has essentially the same condition, it seems that the state lines has been drawn (with a ruler admittedly) in a general sense according to the types of the landscape. For some reason, if you go from Kentucky to Tennessee, there's a slight change in nature. Not dramatic, and it's slightly gradual, but, there's a change.

The other major thing being that, people in USA very much do like the neighbors, as well as being "proud" of their own State. In Kansas, and nowhere else, except the first 10 miles or so into Nebraska, they've got round fields, since they have the practice of placing one end of the irrigation in the center, and move it clockwise around it. In fact, I'm not sure I ever saw a field that wasn't like that, while in all other places, the fields were square. In Wisconsin, the barns had a brown silo. Every single "farm" had it. They had silos elsewhere, but not in that exact way and style. It's close between Texas and New Mexico, but the moment you got over the State line, you started seeing houses with flat roofs, "New Mexico"/"Mexico" style. Didn't see a house like those nowhere else.

All together making a different feel from state to state.
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